Now that we have started in a new year, many of us have recapitulated everything that happened in 2014, and we have also set a series of changes or goals for 2015. In short, we have set our eyes on the past to understand each other better and in the future to dream of new illusions.
However, we often forget to analyze with the same interest the present moment, the moments we squeeze every day, be it family celebrations, dinners with friends or daily vicissitudes.
Because one of the keys to feeling happier seems to be the fact of being aware of our present, that is, having the mind on what one is doing. instead of spending all our time daydreaming. In other words, thinking about the things that are not really happening instead of being mentally involved in the present moment, it seems to make us feel less happy.
At least that is what research suggests by Matt Killingsworth, from Harvard University. Also, Killingsworth has discovered that even when we think of something pleasant we will feel happier if we concentrate on the experience we are living in reality, even if this experience is not as pleasant, as finding ourselves in the middle of a traffic jam, for example .
The happy present
In his TED talk, Killingsworth synthetically explain what are the keys that reside in living the present moment as a way to obtain greater life satisfaction. And to discover that people are often happier when they are focused on their daily chores, he used a tool called Track Your Happiness "Track your happiness", an application that allowed people to report their feelings in real time.
With all the data collected and tabulated (basically those obtained by randomly asking people what they were doing and how they felt at different times of the day) Killingsworth also discovered that the more our mind is distracted, the less potentially happy we will be.
The reason for this seems to be related to the fact that we stop living in the present, which is the moment we can manage: when we think of things that we do not have in front of us, that will not happen until later or that have already happened, it can cause us stress , in part because we cannot do anything at that moment to modify them (according to Killingsworth we spend on average 47% of the time wandering around).
Focusing on what we do every day is what the psychologist proposes Daniel Goleman in his book Focus:
People who achieve maximum performance (whether in education, business, sports or the arts) intuitively use forms of focus and mindfulness. The crux is not in practicing concentration for many hours, but in the way we pay attention to what we do and how we absorb feedbacks to correct ourselves.